Having a baby equals thousands of emotions. It might outwardly seem that every day is the same (feeding, changing, playing, lulling and so on) but in fact, it is not. One day we happily smile to each other, and the next we want to scream and shout. In those other days, I say to myself that this moment will pass. It is a unique time and tomorrow will be already different so do the best from what you get. Everything flows.
At the beginning, when Tomek woke up often in order to eat, I dreamt of more than two hours of sleep in a row. It is such a privilege! I was sleeping two hours here and there. I tried to synchronize with Tomek’s rhythm, but it was not that easy to fall asleep exactly when he did. Finally the day I get enough sleep had come, pretty fast, I have to admit. It wasn’t that I was sleeping all night through, but enough to feel rested. And then teething had begun and my son forgot that he should sleep during the night, not eat every two hours. Well, probably it will happen many times when his rhythm of sleep and wakefulness will change. And mine together with his. Sometimes it is difficult, especially when I am tired after a short sleep and he is cranky. But still, I can count on his father help in the evenings and during the weekends. And how is it to raise a child alone?
In honor of single mothers
Now I know, or at least I can imagine more or less how arduous job single mothers have to do. No husband to change them in duties when their heads are overwhelmed with high sounds of baby cry. Or when they have just replaced sheet and the blanket but the diaper soaked and they have to wash everything all over again and look for fresh clothes and linen. And on top of that, they are tired cause their lovely baby didn’t sleep through the night but instead was babbling happily.
It is very probable that your baby’s bad day will be your bad day as well. And maybe at some point, you will have those thoughts of throwing newborn out through the window. And right after you will wonder what’s wrong with you, what a mother are you to have such thoughts while everywhere on facebook you can see only bright smiling mummies. Don’t worry. It is normal. If you google “crisis of motherhood”, you will quickly find out you are not alone. You can have a bad day too. You can feel strange in the new life role. It will pass and then you will be again the best mother ever!
In honor of mothers of twins
I have one child so I can only guess that having twins or triplets can sometimes be super hard. You feed the first, he sleeps, but the second cries loud and wakes the first up. And going out? That’s a challenge! You dress the first but the second doesn’t want to put that sweater on so the first one is sweating while you are fighting with the second. I know, I know, it means double or triple love, smiles, and hugs, nevertheless it IS a demanding job.
Having help is important. I live abroad, so most help I get from Tomek’s father. Unless I have some guests. But if you live close to your family, don’t hesitate to ask for some help even if it is just making dinner for you. It means A LOT.
I know well, that human beings are able to adjust to circumstances very well. Even when we cannot imagine particular situation but we will be put in it, we will find the way. Maybe we will even enjoy it. Nevertheless, I think that all mothers, fathers and those who spent their days taking care of children, deserve much appreciation. THANK YOU.